Communication, GOALS, Love, PURPOSE, relationships

But By Weight

This morning I read a quote from Proverbs which states “deliver your words not by number but by weight”. During my journey of self discovery I have encountered many quotes relating to the power of the tongue and how it is better to speak less and listen more. This particular quote stuck with me because it inspired me to choose my words wisely and the quantity can never replace quality.

Growing up I was always told it is not what you say but how you say it. Now that I am older and have experiences many communication related issues, I do believe that choice of words can influence the way the a conversation flows. Knowing who you are speaking to (your audience) is equally as important because you can choose the correct words to use that would impact the listener. I noticed that when speaking to my son he benefits from positive reinforcement. Being a toddler he can sometimes choose to take the path which is not available to him, For instance, if I cook steak for dinner I can say to him “Hey son, do you want steak or pizza?” His response is usually along the lines of “Mommy I want shrimp!” which clearly was not an option. So in order to manipulate him into choosing one of the choices I would instead say, “Hey son, you are growing so big and strong. I know you want to be a super hero like spider man so which food do you think would give you the most super power? Is it the steak or the pizza?”. At this point he is so enthralled with the idea of being compared to Spider-man he would eat anything.

I must admit. Changing my communication technique, remaining mindful of what I am saying and who I am saying it to has greatly improved all of my relationships. I have a better understanding with my coworkers and less arguments with my significant other. Colossians 4:6 says Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. Your response to your boss should not be the same as your response to your mate. Proverbs 15:28  states The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.

Whether your goal is to improve your relationships or to be more aligned with the word of God changing your communication style and improving communication techniques is beneficial. Take the time today to listen more than you speak. Spend time analyzing your responses and consider how they would impact the receiver. Learn a new vocabulary word or try learning another language to broaden your communication style.

Prayer:

Father God thank you for blessing me with the opportunity to think and speak freely. Lord please make sure that the words of my mouth are all aligned with your purpose. Father please humble me so that I am listening to learn and not to respond. God please protect and bless my relationships so that they flourish and glorify your name. God you are amazing, through you anything is possible. Amen.

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GOALS, PURPOSE

10 Years

Blog Challenge Day #2

The challenge of writing daily has been one that I have NOT mastered yet. I guess that is why it is called a challenge. I started this challenge a few weeks ago and I have so far progressed to Day #2. So here we are, the question is where would I like to be in ten years.

Although ten years sounds like a long time, having being here for quite a few decades I would venture to say time truly flies. Setting a goal for ten years from now is something that I can truly visualize and measure because 10 years will be here before I know it. Ten years from now I will be a different woman completely. My goal is that I would have perfected my gifts to the point where others would be able to benefit from my gifts.

My goal is to give back to my community and to contribute to society so that changes can be made. I know that a lot can happen in ten years and I truly believe that God has placed me here to make an impact. In 10 years I see myself at the manifestation stage where all of my dreams, desires and abilities collide.

God says that his plans for my life far exceed anything that can be humanly imagined. Since I choose to believe the promises of God I know that where I will be in ten years through the grace of God is far bigger than my dreams. I am so excited to see my life during these times because my dreams are big and I would love to see bigger.

Prayer;

Father God you are amazing. Thank you for the purpose and the promises that you have placed over my life. I realize that I am here to live out your glory and to lead others to your throne. God thank you for placing such amazing gifts in my spirit. Thank you for protecting me from the traps of the devil. He who is in me is greater than he who is in the world and I thank you for keeping me Father. For you said God that you are always with me even to the end of age. I ask that you make my days filled with purpose and please keep me focused so that everyday I am glorifying you Father. Thank you for blessing me in the years to come. In Jesus name

Amen