Communication, GOALS, Love, PURPOSE, relationships

But By Weight

This morning I read a quote from Proverbs which states “deliver your words not by number but by weight”. During my journey of self discovery I have encountered many quotes relating to the power of the tongue and how it is better to speak less and listen more. This particular quote stuck with me because it inspired me to choose my words wisely and the quantity can never replace quality.

Growing up I was always told it is not what you say but how you say it. Now that I am older and have experiences many communication related issues, I do believe that choice of words can influence the way the a conversation flows. Knowing who you are speaking to (your audience) is equally as important because you can choose the correct words to use that would impact the listener. I noticed that when speaking to my son he benefits from positive reinforcement. Being a toddler he can sometimes choose to take the path which is not available to him, For instance, if I cook steak for dinner I can say to him “Hey son, do you want steak or pizza?” His response is usually along the lines of “Mommy I want shrimp!” which clearly was not an option. So in order to manipulate him into choosing one of the choices I would instead say, “Hey son, you are growing so big and strong. I know you want to be a super hero like spider man so which food do you think would give you the most super power? Is it the steak or the pizza?”. At this point he is so enthralled with the idea of being compared to Spider-man he would eat anything.

I must admit. Changing my communication technique, remaining mindful of what I am saying and who I am saying it to has greatly improved all of my relationships. I have a better understanding with my coworkers and less arguments with my significant other. Colossians 4:6 says Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. Your response to your boss should not be the same as your response to your mate. Proverbs 15:28  states The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.

Whether your goal is to improve your relationships or to be more aligned with the word of God changing your communication style and improving communication techniques is beneficial. Take the time today to listen more than you speak. Spend time analyzing your responses and consider how they would impact the receiver. Learn a new vocabulary word or try learning another language to broaden your communication style.

Prayer:

Father God thank you for blessing me with the opportunity to think and speak freely. Lord please make sure that the words of my mouth are all aligned with your purpose. Father please humble me so that I am listening to learn and not to respond. God please protect and bless my relationships so that they flourish and glorify your name. God you are amazing, through you anything is possible. Amen.

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Relationship Status

Hello beautiful world. This blog is a goal of mine which is a work in progress. Writing every day inspires me but finding the time to do so is often difficult. In order to encourage myself to write daily and to ensure that I have interesting topics to write about, I decided to take a ninety day blog challenge. This here is day one!

Topic: Relationship Status

I am currently in a relationship. I have been in this relationship for about a year and a half. My “boyfriend” is an amazing guy who has so much potential. He makes me laugh, he is extremely handsome. The best part about our relationship is that we have a lot of qualities in common. I feel so lucky to have someone in my life that I could honestly say is a true friend. I love our friendship. Often times I worry if our relationship would work out in the long run but I never doubt if our friendship would last.

Pros: Makes me laugh, handsome, great foundation of friendship, share some of the same dreams and goals, we both love each other, we both want the relationship to work

Cons: he’s not easily motivated, talks more than acts, battles of issues of infidelity, manipulative, hes not financially responsible

As you can see the pro’s are great but the cons are major deal breakers, if I choose to let them be. My goal is to stay in my relationship and to try to make it work. I have faith that God works miracles. In my previous relationship I was engaged and we lived together. From the outside looking in my relationship appeared to be stable but truly I was miserable. Now with my current relationship, it appears to be unstable. Most of my family and friends comment that we are unevenly yoked. This fact may be true but we are both willing to make the changes necessary to make it work.

On thing I admire about my relationship is that it has exposed flaws in me that I never knew existed. My partner inspires me to become a better woman daily. If we end up separating tomorrow there is a wealth of experiences that I can say I have benefited from while being with him. I pray that if it is in God’s will for us to be together that we will.